Sorcha, London

Sorcha is a business analyst, sports law specialist and barrister in training.

What makes you happy?
People who are considerate and thoughtful. Sharing food with friends. Food in general. Also friends – who, might I add, are often found in the most surprising places. Laughing. But also embracing my moments of sadness. Sunshine. Sweating. 

Is there something that you spent a long time believing you couldn’t do…. only to try it and realise that you can actually could do it? What made you try it? 
I didn’t ever think that I could make a life for myself abroad and create a family. My dad taught me that home is where you make it, and family are the people you choose to love, lean on and support. I’ve learned to look after myself and live in three different countries so far, and have found ‘my’ family. It’s full of lots of fun, interesting and thoughtful people and I’d never have survived this long without them. I just KNEW there was more to see out there, so I packed a rucksack, booked three nights in a hostel in Paris, and a one-way flight. It was soooo hard – and still can be – but it is soooo worth it!

If you were taking yourself on a date, what would you arrange for yourself?
A picnic in Regent’s park and a play at the open-air theatre.

What’s one thing you do regularly in order to look after yourself?

Write down three good things that happened in the past week.

I also cry regularly – I let it all out, eventually dry off the tears, and then make a list of things I should do to make myself feel better. One of them is usually ‘go for a run you silly girl’.

Share one thing that used to make you really anxious, that you no longer worry about.
My hair. I worried about it so much all the time I was growing up. I tried all sorts of products, straightened it, cut it, grew it again, wore hats to hide it. I wished and wished for different hair, that wasn’t dark and curly and fluffy. Then gradually I realised that really, nobody is going to like or dislike me because of my hair. Now, I do not give a F. In France I learned that if you get a good cut, and treat it nicely, your hair will learn to love you back. All by itself. I would fly to Paris for a haircut once a year just to breathe in that attitude.

Time is precious. What do you dedicate yours to?
Myself. Someone once told me that if you really want to look after yourself, imagine yourself as a little girl again. What would you do to protect and love that little girl?

So I try to take myself by the hand every day and introduce myself to lovely people, arrange dates with old friends, feed myself good food and hug myself when I feel a bit sh*t. The little girl inside loves me for it. She also loves cake.

Give your 18 year old self a piece of advice.
Talk to old people, to the person who cleans the office or makes your coffee, and to the quietest person in the room. Really talk to them. You will learn a lot.

Will you grow old gracefully or disgracefully?
Gracefully. As in ‘full of courteous good will’. I’ll at least try.

What do you hope people say about you when you eventually leave this mortal coil?
She was a bit of mystery, but she seemed to enjoy life.

How did answering these questions make you feel?
Happy! Thank you Carly!

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