Eliza, London

Eliza is a fitness blogger, stray puppy fosterer and founder of “But What If You Fly?

What makes you happy?
So many things! Seeing clients and friends succeed in doing what they love! My one-eyed cat, Doris, also makes me happy, as does seeing my husband dance around the house in his pants.

I love seeing my mum, who has Alzheimer’s, smile, as well as sunny days and spending time with family and friends.

Feeling like I’ve accomplished something also makes me happy – whether that’s baking something that’s turned out unexpectedly delicious (I’m not so good at baking), having worked hard at a fitness class or ticked something off my list that’s been hanging over my head for ages.

Is there something that you spent a long time believing you couldn’t do…. only to try it and realise that you can actually could do it? What made you try it?
It’s strange – I find it really easy to believe in others, yet hard to believe in myself. It’s something I’m definitely still learning. I often find I do better when I don’t concentrate on the end goal but take one step at a time, like coming across angled monkey bars in an obstacle course race and thinking I’ll be hitting that water anytime now… and then realising that just by concentrating on one rung at a time, I’m at the end.

The hardest thing I’m battling with right now is valuing my time – I have so much expertise in what I do yet asking for financial compensation that matches that value terrifies me. However, I’ve had several pep talks with myself and am finding it so much easier now. *fistbump*

If you were taking yourself on a date, what would you arrange for yourself?
Every good date revolves around quality food so I’d be sure to include something simple but tasty – maybe a trip to a food market full of small, local suppliers who are really passionate about what they’re producing.

And then I think in order to stimulate the brain I’d have a ‘crafternoon’ session doing something that as adults, we don’t ever seem to consider – whether that’s decorating T-shirts, doing origami or making sock monsters, it’s all awesome.

And after that, I’d finish the date with either a massage or pudding – like a massive ice cream sundae. Or a thick hot chocolate, depending on the weather.

What’s one thing you do regularly in order to look after yourself?
There are three things that I have to have to feel balanced – and that’s feeling fit, knowing I’ve eaten well and feeling resilient. So if I’m feeling out of kilter, I know that it can be helped with a short fitness session or fast walk outdoors, a green smoothie or a meditation session. I also look at practising visualisation as I find this helps keep me optimistic and charged for the day.

Share one thing that used to make you really anxious, that you no longer worry about.
Not knowing enough about pop culture – I once stood next to Jon Bon Jovi waiting for a lift at a private member’s club and had no idea who it was. I have no idea who anyone from the cult TV programs are and don’t get me started about music! I recognise Disney, Simon & Garfunkel and probably Jonny Cash but as for all the latest hit songs, I would have heard of them but couldn’t pick them out in a line-up or tell you what songs they sung.

I used to be absolutely mortified if anyone asked me what kind of music I liked just in case I wasn’t ‘cool’ enough but now, I don’t give a shit. I embrace the fact that I have better things to spend my time on!

Time is precious. What do you dedicate yours to?
At the moment, I’m dedicating mine to my health and my bump. It’s been a hard thing to get my head around as I’m someone who spends a lot of time helping others but now it’s important for me to look after me and put that and the bump as my first priority. 

Give your 18 year old self a piece of advice?
Follow your instinct and do what feels right, even if it’s hard. A notable example is I used to be really horrible to boys by going out with them because it was easier than saying no and then doing all sorts of awful things to make them dump me so I wouldn’t have to! I’ve definitely grown up since then. 

How will you grow old? Gracefully or disgracefully?
Gracefully! In my head at least – I’ll still probably dress like a teenager but I like to think I’d embrace it with humour and keep my inner child alive!

What do you hope people say about you when you eventually leave this mortal coil?dead?
That I inspired those around me and helped them when they needed it. And that I also loved my food! 

How did answering these questions make you feel?
Like I wanted to run away screaming! Digging around in the depths of my soul isn’t something I enjoy doing but I know it’s good practice.

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