Kat, Buckinghamshire

Kat is an early years educational advisor and comic geek.

What makes you happy?
I’m a real homebody so being at home with my family and friends, some good music and lots of cake is my hotline to happiness. I love early morning dog walks, my boys running into my arms when I pick them up from school and nursery, their gorgeous faces when they are sleeping, cosying up as a family under the duvet, and generally pottering around and having a giggle.

Is there something that you spent a long time believing you couldn’t do…. only to try it and realise that you can actually could do it? What made you try it?
I was chronically shy as a child, teenager and into my twenties, and this really affected how I thought about myself, as well as the perception that other people had of me. As a consequence I had very low expectations of myself and what I could achieve.

It wasn’t until I’d graduated from university feeling like I’d wasted an opportunity, that I put myself well and truly out of my comfort zone and went to work in America by myself, something that I never believed I could do. I had a great time and came back home with more confidence, some life experiences under my belt and a more positive view of myself. It was like a switch had been flicked.

If you were taking yourself on a date what would you arrange for yourself?
After apologising for most of my life about being a homebody, I can now unashamedly say I do love a night in! However, my husband likes to go out, so a happy medium for us would be going to a gig or the cinema and heading home for a night cap.

One thing you do regularly to look after yourself?
Every once in a while (ok, every couple weeks!) I go to bed ridiculously early…as in the same time as my children. With two small people who enjoy playing musical beds and definitely didn’t get the memo that night-time is for sleeping, a night owl husband and very early mornings, trying to keep up is practically impossible. Sometimes all I need is a bit more sleep to improve my outlook on life.

Share one thing that used to make you really anxious, that you no longer worry about.
When I was younger I very self-conscious about the way I looked and even more so about what other people thought about me. These days I am still self-conscious about how I look, however I can now say with all honesty that I don’t care what other people think. It’s taken a long time to learn to love myself (with special thanks to my particularly awesome husband) and there are many days where I need to give myself a pep talk to face the day, but I have finally learnt how to put myself out there and get stuck in.

Time is precious, what do you dedicate yours to?
My boys (husband and two small people) are my world, but we’ve found that our world revolves better when have some of our own elements/hobbies that we can do individually and share and learn from. For me, this is work. My job is intense and pressurised but I enjoy it, and somehow it makes me a better parent.

Give your 18 year old self a piece of advice.
Believe in yourself, try not to worry and you really do have the most amazing friends (although I already knew that)!

How will you grow old, gracefully or disgracefully?
I want to grow old in the company of the ones I love, making memories, having a giggle, facing our fears.

What do you hope people say about you when you eventually leave this mortal coil?
To be honest I haven’t thought (or haven’t wanted to think) about this. It is my hope that they will talk about the fun times we shared together, the laughter that was had and the delicious cakes that were eaten.

How did answering these questions make you feel?
It has reminded that I am a lucky lady. I have a lot to be thankful for and people in my life that me truly happy, who really are the best.

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