Ellie, Manchester

Ellie is founder of Nest Funding and a retired women’s rugby player.

What makes you happy?
Having a purpose. Keeps me on the straight and narrow, and gives me energy.

Is there something that you spent a long time believing you couldn’t do…. only to try it and realise that you can actually could do it? What made you try it?
Finance. Numbers. I thought I couldn’t work on anything financial, but that was bullsh*t. I just hadn’t yet learned to do financial things. Big difference! Now I love learning this new language and skill. And trusting myself that I know what I’m doing. I had to learn finance for my new business and when I started, I realised I actually knew a lot more than I thought I did.

If you were taking yourself on a date, what would you arrange for yourself?
I’d definitely have a glass of wine, in a nice pub, relaxing. And I’d also arrange to bump into my fiancé. Everything’s more fun when she’s around.

What’s one thing you do regularly in order to look after yourself?
Rest! Stop. And. Rest. I find that I don’t need to balance my work/life, but I need to balance my energy. Resting might mean  stopping for a cup of tea, meditating, or reading a book.

Share one thing that used to make you really anxious, that you no longer worry about.
My appearance! I turned up recently to a meeting with a member of the House of Lords, with a hole in my trousers, Toms on my feet, and no make up. I would have thought I was ridiculous when I was younger – now I know what’s important is not the wrapping I’m in.

Time is precious. What do you dedicate yours to?
People, activities and cake.

Give your 18 year old self a piece of advice.
Stop worrying. You’re eating right, drinking right, exercising right. You can let go of all of that, and things will be just perfect. Have more fun!

Will you grow old gracefully or disgracefully?
I imagine a mix, mostly graceful with bouts of drinking too much/being too loud/being too outspoken. I’m happy with that.

What do you hope people say about you when you eventually leave this mortal coil?
That depends on who is saying it. But ultimately I want people to say that I was kind. Kindness is underrated.

How did answering these questions make you feel?
Really good, actually; taking a moment to reflect on what’s important and how I’ve changed has been a sweet few minutes in my day.

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