Emma, Kent

Emma is a stylist, model and scrabble master.

What makes you happy?
My husband and son, I wasn’t sure I could love another person as much as my husband and then our boy came along – it’s unreal the amount of love you feel for your child and some times it freaks me out a bit that they both feel the same way about me! Thinking of my son’s ridiculously gorgeous face makes me smile every time!

Is there something that you spent a long time believing you couldn’t do…. only to try it and realise that you can actually could do it? What made you try it?

I was stuck in an unhappy relationship for a long time believing that I couldn’t leave. I was young when we’d got together and I was so concerned with what other people would think if I ended it. One day something inside me just snapped and I realised I couldn’t spend the rest of my life being unhappy for that amount of the time. 
If you were taking yourself on a date, what would you arrange for yourself?

Cinema, scrabble & lots of food – I’m easily pleased!

What’s one thing you do regularly in order to look after yourself?

I write a gratitude diary every day (no matter how shit the day has been!) – I write down the 5 things that day I’m most grateful for. It reminds me even on bad days that there are always things to appreciate.

Share one thing that used to make you really anxious, that you no longer worry about.

I was bullied growing up for being ginger and so I used to be really paranoid about my hair. As I’ve grown older I’ve grown to love it – I love being ginger, it makes me different and I came to realise being different is a brilliant thing! If anything I’d like to be even more ginger!

Time is precious. What do you dedicate yours to?

My family and also work but I’m lucky enough to have a job I love so it doesn’t feel like work.

Give your 18 year old self a piece of advice.

Don’t let others manipulate or alter your dreams, at 18 you should be following your reckless desires wherever they take you – you have a long life ahead to be sensible!

Will you grow old gracefully or disgracefully?

No doubt much to my son’s embarrassment – disgracefully!

What do you hope people say about you when you’ve left this mortal coil?
That I was a great wife and mother and that I made the people around me happy.
How did answering these questions make you feel?

Great – reading my answers back felt pretty positive!

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